Pup Play

This article was borrowed from a recent Tumblr posting.

Pup Play FAQ

The past several months I’ve had individuals contact me regarding what pup play is from my perspective, and to ask for more resources. Instead of typing it out every time and trying to find the resources I have, I’m just putting it on here so I can share it easily. If someone thinks something should be added/changed/fixed, let me know. I’d rather be corrected so the info on here is reliable and available.

So what is Pup play:

The short answer:
It’s exactly as it sounds. Someone wanting to play the role of (role play) a puppy: on all fours, wagging, barking, playing with toys, eating out of dog bowls, etc.

The longer answer:
Pup play is a form of pet play (animal role play), where an individual wants to take on the role of a puppy dog. This is done by role-playing a puppy, mimicking mannerisms: barking, wagging, begging, playing with toys, sniffing/licking things, eating out of bowls, etc.; for fun.

In the end it’s a fun release, getting into a shift in headspace, and only focusing about what is happening right now. Not what happened earlier, or what will come. Just being a pup in the here and now. That headspace is all about trying to think like a dog and rely more on instinct rather than the complexities of human thought and aspirations.

What pup play is not:

First and foremost, pup play is not about bestiality – no sexual activity involving real bio (biological) dogs. Pup play is also not about humiliation. Most pups do not get into pup for the humiliation factor. They get into pup because it’s fun and a great release. However, while someone may be a pup, they may also be part of, or like other kinks, fetishes, and communities as well. Finally, pup play is not just about sex. While pup play can be a sex positive experience, where the subject of sex is not looked down on. Sex is not the sole purpose of pet play or pup play. It just depends on the nature of the relationship with the pup and/or any other parties involved.

Terms:

Below are a few terms that are used within the pup community. I’ve noticed that some people define these differently, this is just my own generic definitions:

Pup – A person acting the part of a puppy within pup-play.
Alpha – A pup who is a leader in a pack or over other pup(s). This is normally a leadership/guidance role.
Owner – Someone who owns a pup or a pack (multiple pups).
Handler – Someone who is handling a pup on a leash.
PAH – (Puppy and Handler) Is normally a regional/local group specifically for human puppies, handlers, and those interested in pup play.
Biopup/Biodog – Refers to an actual biological dog.
Headspace (pup-space or pupping out) – Is the carefree mental state that happens when in pup play. It’s focusing on living in the moment, and acting with your surroundings on instinct, like a dog would. Putting your own thoughts, fears, ambitions, etc. aside for a time.
Moshing – A puppy mosh, mosh pit, or just mosh, is normally when a group of pups get together and pup out. Most of the time it’s done in a specific area (roped off or matted) for the sole purpose of pupping out.
There are other terms out there and definitions. I suggest reading other resources to learn more about them and/or how others define those terms. There are other resources at the end of this.

Is any gear required to get started:

No, being a pup requires no gear. It’s a mental state and purely up to the individual on how they want to pup. I do recommend at least some basic safety gear for comfort. Mainly due to being on all fours on the floor, they can either be hard on your knuckles and knees, or can give you rug burn, depending on the surfaces you are crawling around on. Some basic knee pads and cheap MMA practice mitts make perfect gear to start out with. But, while I recommend some gear for comfort, I want to repeat this. Gear is never required to be a pup. Below are a few other things you can look at.
Collars – I’ve seen two forms of thought on it. Some say pups should wear a collar and their owner/alpha/handler will give them tags. Others say collars should be given by an owner/alpha/handler. Personally, if a collar will help you get into headspace, go for it! In the end if you get a cheap collar and your owner/alpha/handler wants to give you a more expensive collar and/or tags, you can always switch to using theirs. Again, no one is making the rules on this except you.
Toys – Toys can really make pupping out fun, even by yourself. Think of a real puppy and them playing with chew toys. They can entertain themselves for a long while. Just keep it simple and cheap, soft chew toys are all you need. Though I caution playing with hard chew toys (rawhide, hard plastic, etc.). Human teeth are not the same as bio dog teeth.
Hoods/Muzzles – Hoods and muzzles are good to help a pup get into headspace. They also afford a pup the security of anonymity, which can help a pup when in public places. It also helps a pup look more the part, which again, helps with getting into that puppy headspace; but, by no means required. If starting out, there are cheap options out there, you don’t have to drop $150-230+ on a hood if you are not sure pup-play is your thing.
Any other gear that is out there is there for aesthetic purposes. It can help pups get more into that pup headspace. But, again, it is not required. When starting out, I suggest going cheap. Don’t invest into something you are just going to try out if you are not sure this is something you are going stick with. You can get cheap mitts, kneepads, collar, toys, and a hood/mask for under to around $100. If it’s something after a time, you enjoy, you can always invest and upgrade to better gear.

How do I get started:

A lot of times, starting out, people over think it. Try dropping down on all fours and sniffing around, viewing your surrounds on all fours, and starting to think like a puppy. You might want to get on YouTube and watch some videos on how puppies/dogs act. Or, read the numerous dog training resources that are out there on the internet to get some background on training puppies/dogs to give you better insight on how puppies/dogs behave.
Choosing a puppy name and or breed:
Choosing a name is purely up to the individual and or owner/pup relationship. Names can always be changed to best suit a pup. So if you choose a name and get an owner who changes it to something more suiting, nothing is wrong with that. Again, pup is purely defined on your terms.
Breed is the same way; it’s purely up to the pups’ discretion as to what breed they choose if one at all. Let me be clear, you do not need to have a breed to be a pup. It’s just flavor, a bit of color to the experience. If you are looking into a breed, look at the traits certain breeds have, that align closely with how you feel. And, you don’t have to pick a breed due to your body type. I know a huge guy that looks like a linebacker 6’+ tall, that’s a Chihuahua. I know a very small guy who’s a St. Bernard. It’s just flavor to help you identify more as a pup.

Other Resources:

Take this and any other resource with a grain of salt. There is no right or wrong way to be a pup. There isn’t a rule book that states there is a specific way to do something, or set standards that has to be followed – other than common sense. These are just my answers. This and all other resources are just guides to help you. I can’t stress this enough, however you pup, so long as you are happy and comfortable, go for it.
And, I wholeheartedly suggest getting out and involved with a Puppy or PAH (puppy and handlers) group in your area. You can read all you like, but actually interacting with other pups in the community, you gain a wealth of knowledge by actually participating. You may also want to look at your local Leather/BDSM community, which is normally pretty accepting of puppy play and will have resources for you to help you out.
Below are other resources on puppy 101 – beginning stuff to read into. I highly recommend reading these resources and any others out there to get ideas to figure out how you want to pup.

Resources on pup play:

Other online guides, sites, and books:
Woof! – Perspectives into the Erotic Care & Training of the Human Dog
Puppy 101 by Papa Woof Roth – Pup
Puppy Moshing 101 by Papa Woof Roth – Pup
Puppy 101 NEPUPS
Azure-Chaos – Caring for your Human-Pup
SiriusPup
International Puppy Contest
Puppy Bill of Rights
Wikipedia – Animal Roleplay

Online Forums on Pup-Play:

Puppy 101 Facebook page
Pup Zone – For guys into dog/pup roleplay
The Kennel – A Social Network for Human Pups and Their Masters

Gear:

The Happy Pup – Gpup’s Puppy Play & Pup Play Gear Guide
Info on Pup play and Pup play Gear
Mr. S Leather
Look under the puppy section on the left menu.
GRR Bear-Masks
Great handmade masks without breaking your budget. The owner will work with you to create a mask custom for you.
Rubber Dawg – Custom rubber hoods
The Well Kept Pet – Custom Leather Pet Play Masks
Dog House Leathers
The link is to their “Puppy Stuff” page
Fetish Zone
Has a lot of kinky stuff on their site, including a pup play section, as well as a pony play section

Now go out and get your puppy on…

Thanks for reading,

boy stray

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Will, Won’t, or Maybe Mondays

Last week i introduced the idea of reviewing, and hopefully filling out a BDSM Checklist of activities with your Dom of those things you will do, you won’t do at all, and those activities that may be appealing but you’ve never tried before.  He needs to know up front your hard and soft limits.  Hard limit examples might be scat (poop), and should be children and animals; soft limits might be slapping my face hard, meaning light slaps are acceptable.  Everyone has their own preferences and limits.  It behooves all subs and their Doms to know each other’s limits and preferences prior to playing.  you don’t want to be in a scene and find out the Dom really gets off on flogging the shit out of his subs, and you can only tolerate light flogging.  Makes for a bad scene!

This week i wanted to touch on age play, anal sex, and animal play.  

Age Play

Age play usually involves one person in the relationship taking on the role of Daddy and the other as the son.  T/they call each other by those titles.  The interpersonal dynamic can encompass in and/or out of bedroom activities.   The boy may be younger than Daddy, but doesn’t have to be.  The boy is “taken care of” like a father would care for his young son physically, emotionally, and financially, and unlike a father/son relationship the Daddy probably has sex with the “son”.

This is an interesting dynamic that i have done a couple times.  my “Daddy” was only 2 years older than i, and it was purely sexual & a short term play session. It, at least for me, invoked feelings of incest and sexual abuse because of my history.  Most other boys hopefully have no issues similar to mine when they do Daddy/son play.

A more extreme age play involves men identifying with a much younger inner child, called a little. The little may feel they are 4 or 5 years old, or other every young age.  they may incorporate stuffed animals, children’s books and other items of childhood into their play/relationship.  Again the little is cared for and nurtured by the Daddy/Dom.  And there may be a sexual component to the Daddy/boy dynamic.

Another type of age play is infantilism whereby the sub likes or identifies with being a baby.  they may wears diapers, drink from baby bottles, and in other ways become a baby. The diapers may need to be changed and other issues of infant care may be incorporated into the play.

Anal Sex

The next item on the BDSM/Kink activity list is anal sex. This may be listed as kink mostly for our heterosexual friends. i’ve found in my many years in the gay community that anal sex is quite common place and enjoyed by most gay men.  W/we typically may gravitate to one role or the other, as a Top or bottom.  Lots of guys these days list on their profile: versatile or versatile bottom.  my experience has been that those guys probably bottom most if not all the time, and seldom, if ever Top.  

Bottom shaming…i came out at a time when openly identifying as a bottom was looked down upon.  bottoms were thought of as the “feminine” or woman-role in sex.  You never saw bottoms proudly proclaiming their preferred sexual position or role. Tops were thought of as powerful, virile, and probably well hung and vastly experienced in topping.  bottoms were called passive, the polar opposite of Tops who were called Active.  i most often heard anally receptive men being labeled as “just a big ole bottom”.  Or it might be said of them, “You could drive a semi through there” or “you’d need a safety harness to go in there”.  Bottoms were thought of as less  than, not equal to the Top, denigrated for liking to get fucked.

Even bottoms enabled this perception by claiming to be Tops or at least versatile, and then in bed switching to the bottom position. And repeating the negative statements about bottoms even when talking about themselves. Even i wore my key clip in the left back pocket claiming to be a Top.  i was afraid of the judgments and being pigeonholed as a promiscuous, loose assed bottom.   

i came around to being a proud bottom when i internalized the reality that without bottoms, there would be No Tops.  Also i refuted the notion of being a passive participant sexually.  i am a very “active” bottom, and i have been with tons (well, maybe not that many) of passive, dead fish Tops who just want to lay there and be done by the bottom guy.  

So i got off on a tangent.  Anal sex…fun, exciting and for me, a sort of requirement for me to feel like i have really had sex.  

Do:

Clean out thoroughly – no one wants a poop accident while fucking.  Use lots of silicone lube, start slowly, and if you have any pain at all…stop, reposition, add more lube and again start slowly. If no pain, you can really get a good, hard pounding without any damage to your asshole (sphincter).

Don’t:

Continue fucking if you have any pain or bleeding.  Don’t use the enema too close to the time you are going to fuck.  you may expel water or worse.  Makes for a big mess, and the probability of never playing with that Dom again.

Animal Play

Puppy play, pony play, and other types off animal play has grown immensely popular in recent years.  This form of play allows the submissive to assume the persona of the animal.  As in puppy play the boy would likely don a leather puppy mask with ears, leather paws covering the fingers and hands, and possibly an anally inserted tail. The pup would walk around on all four “legs” and emulate the activities and mannerisms of a puppy.  Ponies do likewise.  The pups and ponies will have a handler to guide and assist in getting the pup into proper mindset.  

Never done this, but a bit drawn to being a pup in play.  Explore your own inner animal. Play, get in that mindset.  Get a handler and above all release your inhibitions and have fun.  Maybe one day i’ll join you…

Next week – Anal plugs, Aromas, and Asphyxiation 

Thanks for reading,

boy stray