Can you feel submissive without a dominant partner? If so, how does your submission express itself? If not, how do you handle your submission or submissive feelings?
Yes i believe a submissive can feel submissive even without a Dominant partner. i always feel and try to portray my submissive nature. It may be in some small ways, but it is ever present in my mind and actions. Now that does not mean i am run over by people, taken advantage of, disrespected, or that i am not assertive in some situations.
i mentioned before that i wear a leather bracelet on my right wrist as a sign that i am a leather oriented bottom boy. i might have a key clip or have a hunter green bandana in my right back jeans pocket and wearing a Leather themed T shirt to denote my interest and position. Being a sub means showing respect so i always say “please” “thank you” and i say “Sir” a lot even to younger men. i now say “may i…” rather than “can i…” because i feel it expresses verbally my submission. Also, i said in a post just the other day that i stand in a submissive way nearly all the time. It is a constant reminder of submission.
Other ways of expressing my submission is by writing this blog. There are so many ideas, thoughts, experiences, questions, doubts, and desires in me that need an outlet and this is a way of expressing my submission through words. Another example is that a small group of us from the boy’s Leather club meet for coffee every week or two. we talk openly in the coffee shop about the club, upcoming events, play parties, relationship issues, and about how BDSM and Leather influence our lives, thoughts and actions.
So, yes, i live my life of submission without having a Dominant partner.
Let me hear your thoughts on this as well. Write me in the comments section to share your opinions.
Thanks for reading,