Tuesday night i was perusing the gay BDSM Kink hookup site when i noticed there was a new email in my box. i opened the email and was shocked at what i read.
“Boy???? At 61 yrs of age and gray hair??? Boy? WTF?”
Initially i felt hurt, attacked, put down, humiliated!
i have to admit to an initial discomfort being considered a boy by many Doms and subs in the gay Leather BDSM Community. i couldn’t quite reconcile my age and mature appearance with being a boy.
Now i thoroughly enjoy and relate to the role of a boy even with gray hair, and being beyond a certain age.
You see, in my mind being a leather boy is a mindset, an identity, a role assumed in the BDSM Leather community by a submissive male. It has nothing to do with age or appearance. It has everything to do with how one sees and expresses himself in the context of a BDSM relationship. A BDSM boy is similar to a young child in some ways. A boy wants guidance and direction, and occasionally needs discipline, and a leatherboy seeks a relationship with a male who will fulfill that role for him. A boy wants to be good and to do as he is told. he wants to be nurtured, cared for, and loved.
Those are all the things i seek as a leatherboy/submissive.
This guy’s online attack was just a judgmental, hateful attempt to undermine my self esteem, and likely an effort to make me reconsider whether i belong on that site.
he lost on both counts!
The funny thing was that all through his profile he kept referring to himself as a pig. Now i wonder if everyone sees the irony of that because it apparently was outside his realm of awareness. To him it was unfathomable that i consider myself a boy, but he whole heartedly identified with being a pig.
So does he sleep in a pig pin, eat slop and lie for hours in the mud and filth all around him. Doubt it.
Thanks for reading,